You try to calculate, a day has 24 hours, and in those 24 hours, how much time do you spend at the company, how much time do you spend on yourself and how much time do you spend with your family. If you do a simple mental calculation, it is certain that the time you spend meeting and interacting with people at the company takes up the majority. Yet in reality, most companies still have a lot of grudges and disagreements between colleagues.
This not only creates a stressful and tiring working atmosphere but also affects the quality of each person's work. We face each other at least 8 hours a day, so let's create good relationships with our colleagues instead of unnecessary relationships.
Here are some tips that can help you build good relationships with your coworkers.
Don't be jealous of your colleagues.
You should not have any signs of jealousy towards people in the same company, it will make you always have bad thoughts about your colleagues, create distance and make it difficult for you to get along with everyone. I don’t know if jealousy is naturally present from birth, depending on each person, jealousy will arise differently. When our colleagues are promoted, favored, have many opportunities to develop… we often have signs of jealousy, gossip.
But do you know, jealousy sometimes shows up on the face, threatening, sometimes silently and tormenting. If you do not suppress and get rid of that jealousy, you will be the first to suffer with it. Know how to accept other people's success with a sharing and sincere attitude. There is a saying: "Loving someone too much makes them suffer, on the contrary, hating someone too much will make yourself suffer", suppress and "tame" your jealousy to gain comfort and sympathy from your colleagues.
Limit asking for help with the smallest things
Put yourself in the shoes of someone who is constantly asked for help by their colleagues. Of course, sometimes we have to ask for help from everyone in the company, but everything needs to have a limit. If you rely on others too often, it is not a good idea. That will make your colleagues feel uncomfortable and have a bad impression of you, whether they say it or not. Do everything for yourself if possible.
Don't be too friendly with your boss.
Winning the boss’s favor by doing your job well and with your own abilities is necessary. However, if you use “tricks” to win the boss’s favor, flattery, and groveling, your colleagues will only have negative thoughts about you. Also, remember not to bring your personal relationship with your boss into resolving conflicts and grievances with your colleagues, if any. And it is best to keep a reasonable distance in the relationship between boss and employee at work.
Think before you speak
If you have made a promise to your co-workers about something, you should keep your promise and do exactly what you said you would do, whether it is in a work relationship or a personal relationship. In any case, you should not only talk but also do not do. Do not criticize your co-workers when they make mistakes or do not do a good job in the company. Remember, people make mistakes, and if you were in your position, would you do a better job than your co-workers?
Avoidance of responsibility
There are many good relationships between colleagues until there are mistakes at work or unexpected incidents. At this time, everyone is afraid to take responsibility for themselves. Most people are afraid, avoid responsibility, and try to blame others to please their boss. As a result, they will be shunned by their colleagues and become lonely in a group. You should know how to take responsibility when it is your mistake, when you have not really done your job well and done your duties properly. Think of it as a challenge and only when you overcome the challenge will you feel that life has meaning.
Don't make yourself a braggart.
If you are lucky to be talented, have many opportunities for advancement in your work, a smooth life, and a happy family, remember that not everyone is like you. You should not tell all those stories over and over again, boasting to your colleagues in the company, especially those who are not as lucky as you. If you want your colleagues to share with you, then find smart ways to avoid misunderstandings and hurting them.
Also, never exaggerate your stories, don't brag or rant when you don't really understand the issues or when they are beyond your reach.
No cliques in the workplace
Remember, the worst thing in the workplace and also the hardest thing to avoid in companies is cliques, gossip and backbiting. Do you think that if you do that to your colleagues, there will be times when your colleagues will treat you the same way? That is a bad habit that needs to be avoided, you should treat people well and care for them sincerely, do not drag others to dig up, gossip or "poke" into the private affairs or shortcomings of any colleague.
If you see someone with a weakness or mistake, be tactful and gentle in giving that person private feedback. Don't be rude to your colleagues. Show that you are a friendly and intelligent person.
There are many more skills needed to build good relationships not only in the workplace but also in life. And to quote a proverb I once read somewhere: “Never leave for tomorrow what you can do today”. Start your happy new days by building good relationships with people today.
Thanh Trang
